Violence In Relationships: The Story Of Another Girl

This is the story of another girl. A girl without a name, because there are so many of them. A girl who fell in love with someone she thought was the best man in the world, a storyteller, a charming prince. She therefore decided to become his princess.

To do this, she gave up her freedom, her freedom to choose, her smile, her friends and her family. In exchange for what she thought was love, she gave up her whole life and left it to the tide, which moved after a selfish heart that thought he could own everything, even people.

Another girl meeting a guy

It was just another day in the office. She sat at her desk and worked quietly, until an employee approached her to give her information about what had happened at the company. She usually did not care about such things. She knew that her co-workers could be a bit dramatic and that rumors and gossip were often made up and had little to do with reality.

When she looked at him, she realized she was wrong. He had brown hair, with brown eyes and a beautiful smile. He was not just another guy; he was the perfect man and she was just another girl. And this perfect man went home on the same train as her, and that was where they got to know each other.

To fall in love

Falling in love is not a conscious act; it is a feeling that gradually takes over you. A feeling that begins with the hope of getting to know someone you have become attached to, but which gradually begins to take over your heart. The eyes may deceive you, but the heart is always authentic.

The perfect man liked her too, and he did not hesitate to ask for her number. He was waiting for her so that they could take the train together, and she was afraid that she would need him during the journey but that he would not be there then. And then he asked for a date. It was very romantic and everything seemed like a dream.

After a few days, he started sending messages to her a few minutes after saying goodbye, as if her absence was the end of the world. He hugged her when they said goodbye, and she felt like the happiest girl in the world, because of all the girls in the world, he had chosen her.

Jealousy and isolation

My best friend sometimes worries about the messages he sends me, and says that there is an anxiety behind his words that she does not like. I think it’s really romantic that he wants to be in touch with me all the time. He is my knight in shining armor and if he knows where I am he can save me from all dangers.

A day ago, he got a little jealous just because he saw me talking to another co-worker, but it was just an expression of love, because I know how important I am to him. He asked me if I liked the guy because I laughed with him when we first met, and he had seen me laugh with my co-worker. I may have unknowingly flirted with him, so I promised not to behave like that again. I do not want to lose him or upset him.

Yesterday he called me and the phone showed that I was already talking to someone, and he became jealous because he thought I was talking to another man. He may have started to get a little controlling, but he’s so kind and kind, and he does it because he loves me so much. So all I can do is forgive him. If he cares so much about me, it’s because he loves me. If he wants to be close to me all the time, it’s because he’ll never leave me, and for him I’m not just another girl.

My friend gets upset because she does not understand his attitude. He told me it’s because she’s jealous because she does not have anyone who loves her. He says she’s a bad influence because she’s giving me weird ideas. It may be true that she is jealous. It bothers me that they do not agree.

The other night I went out with my friends. He got angry, called me a whore and said I had too big a neckline, like I was trying to find another man. My dress was maybe a little daring and I can understand why it bothered him. I do not want to lose him over something so stupid. I will not go out like that again.

My friends do not have a partner, so they may be able to dress like that, but I have and it must be respected. And if he did, I would probably get angry too. They have to understand that I can not go out like that again, and if they do not understand, they are not real friends.

Fear

I’m afraid of losing him. He is getting angry more and more often and his demands are getting bigger. He does not like how I dress, how I smile at other people. He does not want me to wear a skirt, even when he liked it when he first met me. I’m afraid I’m going to do something that distances me from him, the perfect man I’m so happy to have by my side. I could have done anything but that.

He told me that I love him very little compared to how much he loves me. How can I make him understand that he is my charming prince? I’m just another girl who’s afraid of losing the perfect man I’m been lucky enough to be with. It would have been so stupid if I had lost him as I have been so lucky to find him. Someone with as many flaws as I am, with someone as good as him.

Today I shouted at him in the street because he called me a slut. He quarreled over the fact that I was talking to an employee of the shoe store and that I was laughing at a joke he told me. I was friendly, I did not try to flirt and I did it even in a reserved way because I knew he was watching. He shouted at me because of this, but I really do not understand why he reacted in this way.

I want to be able to say all this to someone. I need to be able to talk about it, but I have distanced myself from everyone I trusted, I threw them out of my life with false accusations.

I also do not want him to get angry. I feel a little lost. I guess this is love, wanting someone so much that the fear of losing the person is driving you crazy, even when you know the person is not right. I do not know. I may not know what love really is.

Aggression

He’s scaring me, and he has not even touched me. He threw the table away and slammed the door shut and I stood there shaking. We quarreled again because he saw that I was talking to my boss at work. He still does not understand.

I do not know what to do. I love him and I have been lucky enough to be with someone so perfect who loves me. But I’m afraid of his violent attacks and I do not want us to hurt each other. Maybe I should quit my job so he can calm down. We still live together now and we do not both need to make money.

Maybe this is love?

This is not love; it is manipulation, control and addiction. No one has the right to tell you how to dress or who to talk to. No one has the right to make you shake due to their aggression, even if the person does not touch you.

The story taken up here is a portrait of another girl who is being subjected to psychological abuse. There was no violence, but it could have come later. The violence begins when the victim is so dependent on the perpetrator and is so convinced that the person has done something wrong that it is impossible for him to tell anyone.

It can also lead to physical violence, but as you can see from history, this is not always necessary. She is alone and does whatever he says. She ceases to be herself and is completely dependent on him. He manages to control her, so he has no need to hit her.

This is the story of another girl. Choose any name, because unfortunately there are many. It could have been your sister, friend or neighbor. It could have been any girl who thinks she has fallen in love, but who in reality is controlled and humiliated.

Do not close your eyes. Help her see the reality behind her thought patterns. Even if she wants to throw you out of her life, do not leave her. Even when you often see that she is close to the abyss, do not blame her. Remind her that she can count on you. Ask her to call 112. She needs help to get out of this situation, and if you leave her, she will be another girl who fails to do so.