Some Relationships Are Like Unsalted Eggs
Some relationships are like unsalted eggs: tasteless and meaningless, rooted in a monotonous situation that drowns you in the long run. This is a reality that affects many couples, even though they may have already begun to see this as normal, something that will pass.
But you can change it as long as you want, and take back the source that your love came from and move away from the case that seems to be getting closer and closer. Caring does not age as we do. If it happens, it’s because you let it happen. Maybe you are tired of cultivating it and managing it.
We make the mistake of locking the care, the hugs, the loving words in a cupboard that now contains the past. It used to be important for you to show the other person that you loved so much how you felt. When did you stop with this and start with assumption?
Tasteless, aging love
We have heard many times that when love ends, it dies, that it changes over time. We blame time for feeling better about ourselves and we do not take responsibility for not doing things properly.
It’s not just that we abandon ourselves, it’s that we ignore what we worked for with so much effort and passion many years ago. Now that we have it, do we stop trying? We become the people who let love flow away and become just a memory.
This is where our assumptions begin to show, which causes so many misunderstandings within our relationships. But they have the greatest effect on love relationships. It is better to keep repeating, to get tired of always saying the same thing, than to take things for granted.
“Why should I tell my husband that I love him if he already knows?”, “I do not have to give her a kiss, she already knows I love her”, “We are too old to give each other a kiss in the public sector ”… You probably recognize some of these thoughts. Many couples think the same way.
But in the past, it was no problem to say “I love you” infinitely many times to the one you love. You always gave the person a kiss in the morning before you went to your jobs. You did not think about whether it was an appropriate situation to hold hands or give the person an unexpected hug. You just did it. You wanted your partner near you. You wanted to show him again and again how you felt.
We let love die
The flame does not disappear; we blow it out ourselves. We have been too lazy to say anything to our partner that we used to say so much to. Too lazy to make an effort for something we have already achieved.
Many people give everything at the beginning of the relationship. They feel like inflated balloons. But when they have got what they want, the air will slowly go out of these balloons, until there is nothing left of everything they have done. When you behave in this way, do you still wonder why you do not have the same intimacy as before, why everything has changed?
Relationships fail because of our bad attitudes. We stop thinking about the other person and focus on ourselves. We justify our inability to continue to give everything by saying “the person already knows this”.
The relationship does not continue by itself. It must constantly be nourished, day after day, with more care as we spend more and more years together, because there are also circumstances that can break it down. You look enviously at people who go hand in hand, who respect each other, who do not hide their concern in public, and you ask yourself… how do they do this? By taking care of each other and paying attention to each other’s feelings.
It is a mutual feeling that does not reflect before it shows love. As you begin to make assumptions, think and believe, love will weaken. It should be free to feel and be experienced in its entirety. It is never boring, we are the ones who do it. It never becomes uninteresting, we are the ones causing this.
Relationships are maintained if its hands are safe and ready to give everything today, tomorrow and forever. The years do not matter; what matters is the attitude.
