This Video Will Teach You To Value Yourself

Have you ever thought about your own worth? Or is your life moving so fast that you do not even have time to do it? Maybe you have never stopped to think about your value; or maybe you just focus your attention on negative aspects once you do, as the protagonist in the video below does.

How we value ourselves is something that affects everything we do. From our personal relationships to our achievements at work. Everything is in one way or another influenced by the image we have of ourselves.

There are many perceptions and theories about self-esteem. Carl Rogers, a humanistic psychologist, defines self-esteem as the fundamental core of our personality. At the same time, he defends the idea that many of the problems we have are nothing more than logical consequences of the mockery and criticism we give ourselves, where we do not consider ourselves worthy of receiving love.

On the other hand , psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden confirms that self-esteem is the opportunity and experience to live a meaningful life, where feelings of personal ability and value are the significant factors.

A recent study is one presented by psychiatrist Luis Rojas Marcos, who defines self-esteem as the feeling of appreciation or rejection that comes from the general perception we have of ourselves.

Different definitions for one and the same term, but really with a single message: having self-esteem will encourage us to be more generous in our relationships. In those we maintain with others as well as those we have with ourselves.

Almost all psychological problems are closely related to low self-esteem. There is nothing that has more power over us than the way we judge others. And if we do something negative, this will create a kind of mental prison where we are imprisoned by our own thoughts.

Having low self-esteem will prevent you from seeing yourself as competent or valid. It will make your eyes only see mistakes – just like what happens to Andre, the protagonist in our video – and it is very likely that your thoughts will remind you of all the criticism you have gathered.

Pulling all this baggage from your childhood will make the grid in your mental prison even stronger and thicker over time, and gradually eliminate your ability to value yourself. When you do not value yourself, you will find yourself in a world of constant worthlessness, constantly in need of the approval and acceptance of others.

Although our level of self-esteem may vary due to various events that affect us and our personal growth, the most important thing is that we begin to nurture our ability to value and love ourselves.

Acceptance is the main resource you need to love yourself. Remember that acceptance of yourself does not mean that you should accept the image that others say you have, but rather the one you create yourself. These are two very different things. Accepting yourself means that you discover yourself and begin to taste your authenticity as a person. Always remember your virtues as well as your shortcomings.

As you begin to get to know yourself, therefore, a whole world of abilities will manifest within you. You will no longer be that person who was incapable of doing anything, unworthy of love or of little value. And you will not be dependent on external judgment.

On the contrary, you will be more capable and dignified, with heightened self-esteem that will offer you opportunities so that you can exercise certain abilities to face the challenges you find along the way. When you begin to value yourself, you know that you have the right to be happy, and you begin to respect yourself and defend your interests and needs.

Now I propose a challenge for you, much like the one that the mysterious angel in the Luc Besson film presents to Andre – the protagonist. Stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself: What do you see? How do you see yourself? Go deeper. Do not just describe the physical aspects… How are you? How do you value yourself? Free yourself from the negative blindfolds you are currently wearing and look at yourself to truly value yourself.

It is really not easy to look at yourself in order to discover and open yourself up. You may find that it is not that easy, or perhaps vice versa, that it is not difficult for you at all. What prevents or helps you say these words to yourself? Think about it…

Last but not least, here are some questions to reflect on the image you have of yourself:

• How is my self-esteem?
• Do I love myself or am I waiting for others to give me permission to love myself?
• How am I and what do I think others think of me?
• Am I really who I want to be or just who others expect me to be?

Remember it’s time to start loving and valuing yourself now…

Now we’ll give you the video with the mirror scene from the French movie Angel-A: